Life Lesson #1 - Lower Your Expectations of People.

As I prepared to head off to college, the phrase "lower your expectations of people" was often said by my mom. I had also heard her say this to my brother, Colin, multiples of times throughout the years while he was in college. Especially after rooming with his freshman year roommate, Wes. His first semester went well with Wes, until he started to never speak to Colin and got mad at him for not filling the Brita pitcher (Which is literally so dramatic like ok Wes??? also Colin did fill it?). Colin confronted Wes and he told Colin that he would rather not like to be associated with him? and had no reason. Like ok, that's weird. Colin got a different roommate after that conversation with Wes lol.

I've had my fair share of experiences with people where I have had to just pause and think "lower your expectations" in my head because they're just...different. It's taken me a long while to be able to hold back any judgements of people (not that I still don't sometimes, but I'm better). Not everyone was raised how I was nor do they have the same beliefs or thought processes as me. And that's ok. People come from all backgrounds.

I have learned to lower my expectations of classmates, roommates, coworkers, sometimes friends and just people in general. People will bail on plans that you have had for weeks, skip classes, not study for exams and then complain they did poorly (I can't seem to understand these people?), steal things from you and lie about it (if you ever read this, you know who you are), clean their dishes every other week, or just not at all, workout and not shower for days, use inappropriate slurs with no apology, use passive aggression in every single word they speak, etc. I feel like I have seen it all, and sometimes I like to think I am perfect (: Ha. But I know that I am not, and I know that I do things that make people think the same way. I just tend to have a hard time understanding why people do the things that they do and like not have common sense. You would think that we'd all be born with it, and we just aren't. Not everyone is going to be as educated, loyal, genuine and proactive as you and you gotta realize that.

Moral of the story is, people are not perfect. If you lower you expectations of people, they can't let you down. And don't get random roommates because they will steal your grandma's ring and pretend like it was theirs(: